revel - you - tion [rev-uhl-YOU-shuhn]
The radical and audacious action, process + practice of women
reveling and delighting in their own glorious selves.
Getting dressed is hard.
Because OMG there are SO. MANY. RULES.
Be pretty. But not too pretty.
Dress your age for goodness sake.
Nobody wants to see THAT.
Is that a wrinkle? Put a cream on it.
Wear layers. But don’t be sloppy.
Try hard. But not too hard.
When in doubt, wear black. Unless it’s “out.” Then don’t.
Be yourself. But please don't be full of yourself.
Is that a belly? Here’s how to hide it.
Eat what you want. But watch your weight.
Be sexy. But not THAT sexy.
Have fun with patterns. But don’t overdo it. You don’t want to look like a clown do you?
It's not just the COLLECTIVE societal fuckery we have to navigate.
But the PERSONALIZED, inside-your-head, societally-planted fuckery too.
Am I too old to wear a mini skirt?
Can I wear a cropped top?
How do I mix patterns?
Can I wear yellow?
Does shaving make me anti-feminist?
How do you tie a scarf?
Do these pants make my butt look big?
Can I wear big earrings AND a big necklace?
How do I get rid of my age spots?
Will grapefruit oil get rid of my cellulite?
How can I hide my belly?
Is this dress “flattering” for my body shape?
Is this outfit “age-appropriate”?
What’s the best anti-aging lotion out there?
Am I cool enough to wear that?
These questions keep us hustling for worthiness.
Afraid of “doing it wrong.”
HUNGRY to FIT IN.
But there’s another kind of hunger.
WHAT IF, instead of feeding the hunger of other-people’s-approval, we fed the hunger of SELF ACTUALIZATION and SOVEREIGNTY? The hunger of being loved and being seen? The hunger of what Clarissa Pinkola Estés calls THE WILD FEMININE?
Despite what you’ve been taught, your worthiness is not dependent on your pant size. It’s not dependent on your gender choice, your skin color, your budget, your ability, or your age either.
WORTHINESS IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT.
The SIMPLE ACT of getting dressed BY YOUR OWN RULES, and reveling in YOUR ONE AND ONLY BODY, is a way to FEED THAT HUNGER, and KNOW YOUR WORTHINESS.
Your SOUL FIRE deserves to be seen.
Your BODY deserves to be celebrated.
Don’t waste another minute asking questions with dead-end, made-up, ever-changing answers. It’s a trick. To keep you occupied and confused. To keep you feeling fearful of doing it wrong.
It’s time to ASK A DIFFERENT SET OF QUESTIONS.
ARE YOU READY TO JOIN THE REVEL-YOU-TION?
JOIN A SISTERHOOD OF REVEL-YOU-TIONARY WOMEN
WHO ARE REVELING + DELIGHTING IN THEIR OWN GLORIOUS SELVES!
How many activities you have opted out of because you thought your body was a problem?
How many swims have you passed up?
How many pictures have you stepped out of?
How many parties have you refused?
How many hikes-with-friends have you said no to?
How many fitting rooms have you avoided?
How many adventures have you bypassed?
All because you’re ashamed of your body. Fearful that you might look silly, or weak, or fat, or ugly. Afraid you might grab onto a rope swing (see video), not be strong enough to hold on tightly, then fall kerSPLAT into the water looking ungraceful as hell.
Guess what? You got out there. You tried something new. You did the thing.
And if you ask me, THAT’S WHAT LIVING IS ALL ABOUT!!
We THINK our bodies are the problem. But truth is, it’s the systems and structures that oppress and objectify us–that make us THINK our bodies are the problem–that are the problem.
And I’m here to tell you… YOUR BODY IS NOT THE PROBLEM!
Imagine if we thought of OUR bodies as heavenly bodies?
Seriously, close your eyes and imagine it.
YOUR BODY. A HEAVENLY BODY.
A heavenly body worthy of adorning, celebrating, honoring. A body that can transmit your deepest, most powerful YOU to the world.
”SURE,” you’re thinking. It’s nice to IMAGINE my body as a heavenly body, but have you SEEN my thighs lately? Or my belly? Or my hips, nose, fingers, ankles, boobs, arms, ears, fingers, chin, lips, butt, nose, shoulders? Have you seen my cellulite? My scars? My stretch marks?
You name it. I’ve heard it. There is NO PART OF OUR BODY that is universally sacred.
Hell, there is NO PART OF ANY BODY–no matter the size– that is universally sacred.
After teaching 22 sessions of Style School, one thing has become abundantly clear: BODY SHAME IS ONE SIZE FITS ALL.
I should know. I was a size 6. And I HATED my body.
I was so ashamed of my hips and thighs, I bought not one, but two pairs of these cropped, wide leg, beige yoga pants, and I wore them all the time. They made me feel miserable in my body, which is how I thought I deserved to feel.
Now here I am, 12 years and 20 pounds later, no longer hiding, wearing leggings-as-pants, because I LOVE what my legs can do!
I didn’t change my body. (Well, I DID age 12 years, have another baby, and gain 20 pounds.) I changed how I related to my body.
There are MULTI-BAJILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRIES whose success depends on YOU believing that your body’s JOB is to be thin, to have the perfect boobs/butt/skin/belly/legs, AND to look a certain way in a bathing suit.
THAT IS NOT YOUR BODY’S JOB.
Your body has ONE JOB - to be a body that does GOOD BODY THINGS.
Like, oh, I don’t know… CHANGE. HEAL. GROW. AGE. LIVE. LOVE.
We think that if we screenshot enough “body-positive” sayings, or follow enough “body-positive” Instagrammers, or listen to enough “body-positive” podcasts, THEN we’re doing the work of learning to love our bodies. And we are. Except… those are just the corner pieces of a 1500 piece puzzle.
There are 1496 more pieces to that puzzle!
If you want to feel LOVE toward your today-body, then you have to DO SOMETHING LOVING to/for your body to experience that LOVE.
Easier said than done, am I right?
Love is ACTION that requires a shit-ton of PROCESSING, and bucket-loads of PRACTICE.
THAT is the work of THE REVEL-YOU-TION.
Inside THE REVEL-YOU-TION, women are journeying together and seeing incredible growth through the alchemy of action, process, and practice.
One loving action leads to many loving actions–toward yourself, your family, your community, and the planet. As a REVEL-YOU-TIONARY woman you will…
show up, for yourself, everyday, because YOU MATTER
step into your POWER and claim responsibility for how YOU want to feel in YOUR body
stop waiting for others to tell you your body is good enough to love
reclaim your wildness, and reconnect to/deepen your intuition
VOTE FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN with the dollars you spend
start living the life you want for yourself, instead of waiting for “someday when…”
examine the difference between INTENT and IMPACT, and notice how your actions countexplore different ideas and ways of being to shake you out of your “stuckness”
experiment and play, reconnecting with your deepest, most authentic self
We’ve been taught that there is a “right way” to “be a lady”, to wear a scarf, to mix patterns, to use our voice, to stand up for what we believe in. Well, guess what? There is no “right way”. There is just YOUR WAY, rooted in truth, honestly, integrity and love.
examine the etiology of our modern-day beauty-standard-beliefs, and see how our own complicity in believing them, UPHOLDS THEM
let go of things that no longer serve you (like old beliefs, old underpants, and old behaviors)
explore what we do because we think we HAVE TO DO versus what we do because it feels like creative expression and freedom (like shaving, coloring your hair, wearing makeup)
identify the BS style rules you’ve been following, and BREAK THEM
untangle our own beliefs and behaviors so that we can effectively challenge the unjust systems and structures OUTSIDE OF US - like sexism, racism, classism, ableism, etc - that got us into this mess to begin with.
Getting dressed each morning is a PRACTICE. It’s a practice of connecting with your soul fire, your body, your sense of play. This daily practice is the cornerstone of our REVEL-YOU-TIONARY work together, and through it you will.…
see your closet through the lens of POSSIBILITY instead of LIMITATION
ask yourself “who am I?” and “how do I want to feel?” every-single-day
learn how to dress YOUR ONE AND ONLY BODY
mix patterns, play with color, and explore silhouettes to maximize your wardrobe AND your ability to express yourself through it
identify your creativity stoppers - AND your creativity starters
express your SOULFIRE through what you wear
develop a personal style that is as dynamic and ever-evolving as you are
What gals are saying about THE REVEL-YOU-TION!
There will be 4 MONTHLY EVENTS that you can attend LIVE, or watch the recordings!
SING IT, STASIA!
90 MIN, 1ST FRIDAY
Is it a sermon? A pep talk? A kick in the pants?? Whatever you call it, I’ll get you ready and pumped for the month ahead!
SISTER CIRCLE
60 MIN, 2ND TUESDAY
It's our time to mend + stitch together while having good conversation together, and getting some projects done!
SISTER STORIES
60 MIN, 3RD FRIDAY
Through the ancient art of storytelling, we will heal from the stories of our past, and forge a new path forward.
BOOK CLUB
60 MIN, 4TH FRIDAY
We will read books that challenge us, inspire us, and lead us on a path of greater knowing, trust and love.
YOU CAN’T THINK YOUR WAY TO FREEDOM.
YOU HAVE TO ACTION YOUR WAY TO FREEDOM.
YOUR DAILY A-WEAR-NESS
Daily “style prompts” to inspire creativity + get you out of your rut - delivered to your inbox six days a week!
PRIVATE FACEBOOK GROUP
This is where the magic happens. The daily practice of showing up, the cheering on, the celebration, the SISTERING.
SOUL FIRE STUDY
Each month you’ll have freeSTYLE journaling prompts, a LOVE IS AN ACTION activity, and a simple one-minute daily practice.
A’s to your Q’s
I know. It’s a lot. Let me see if I can answer some of your questions.
+ When does THE REVEL-YOU-TION begin?
Now! Once you sign-up, you'll be directed to the RYT COMMUNITY HUB, where you'll find your bearings, watch some welcome videos, download some SOUL FIRE STUDY SHEETS, and get yourself into the Facebook group!
+ I'm on the fence? Why should I join THE REVEL-YOU-TION?
Well, if you've come this far, something tells me YOU'RE HUNGRY for change. That you're tired of sitting on the sidelines of your life. That you don't want to waste another ounce of energy worrying about whether your pants are flattering, or if your outfit is "age-appropriate,"or if you've "earned" yourself dessert. You're tired of wondering if you're "cool enough". You're tired of feeling like the frump-from-frumpville in your clothes. And you're READY to taste the FREEDOM that comes from MAKING YOUR OWN RULES, LIVING YOUR OWN LIFE, FULFILLING YOUR OWN DREAMS.
+ I think $99/month is kinda steep, why aren't you charging less?
Now that's a great question. And the answer is this... YOU ARE WORTH IT. Where you put your money sends a message to your deep self about your worth. Dance lessons for you kids, family vacations, weekend fishing trips for your partner... all worthy investments, no doubt about it. But what about YOU? Investing in YOURSELF in a meaningful way shows YOU that YOU are "worth it". I'm not talking about "retail therapy" here. I'm talking about the hard - messy - deep - beautiful - meaningful work of LOVING, GROWING, EXPANDING, LEARNING, AGING, DEEPENING, LISTENING. It's hard to do this work alone. We need community, sisterhood, friendship, intimacy. We have to know that we MATTER. That somebody's got our back. That there are other women walking the same path that we are. I want to know you. Support you. Love you. I want you to take this work seriously. Commit. Put some skin in the game. So it's a worthy price, for worthy work, because you, my sister, are WORTHY.
+ Do I have to be on Facebook to JOIN THE REVEL-YOU-TION?
Nope, you don't. THE REVEL-YOU-TION curriculum is VERY strong all on its own and is something you could easily complete as a self-study, especially if you are committed to giving it your best shot. That said, the FB community is where CONNECTION happens. It's a powerful and inspiring place to witness and experience collective braving + collective healing like nothing you've ever seen before.
+ What if I decide to cancel my membership? Is it hard?
Nope. Easy peasy. Done, with just a couple of clicks.
+ Do I have continued access to the content in THE REVEL-YOU-TION after I cancel my membership?
No. Your membership entitles you to ALL THE CONTENT that was released prior to and during your membership period. Once you cancel your membership you will no longer have access to the content inside THE REVEL-YOU-TION.
+ Is this class for women only, or can men and/or non-binary folks join too?
All people who live as a woman, or identify as a woman, are welcome in THE REVEL-YOU-TION. This includes cis-gendered women, trans-women, and non-binary folks who feel as though they belong in a community of women. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
