Discovering your POWER Accessory
What do...Kate Middleton’s fascinators; Wonder Woman’s Lasso of Truth; Abraham Lincoln’s top hat; Audrey Hepburn’s red lipstick; Mr. T’s gold chains; and Batman’s utility belt...all have in common?
Each fancy-pants person on this list (either real or fictional) has a Power Accessory. Their Power Accessories are so iconic in fact, that I don’t even need to show you a picture. Your mind’s eye already did that for you.
Would Mr. T "Pity the Fool" without all of his gold chains? I doubt it.
POWER ACCESSORY: an item that can be added to your daily ensemble in order to make you feel more confident, put together, and self assured (aka - super powered).
You'll never believe me when I tell you that I coined and defined the term myself!! Go ahead. Google it. There’s nothing! (I have to say, as a budding stylist that’s trying to make her mark, this TOTALLY makes me feel legit.)
I'm sure you've heard of statement accessories. They are marketed toward women so they can feel less ordinary and mundane and more unique and interesting. All good. But I’m taking it a step further. Your Power Accessory doesn’t need to be a statement accessory… it could be as innocuous as a fancy bra, or as bold as a top hat. To qualify as a Power Accessory - it needs to give YOU power, and it has to suit your soul (not anybody else's). Trend and popularity and coolness need not apply.
Let me tell you about the time I discovered that I had a Power Accessory.
Once upon a time, I went to Walmart. As soon as I walked through the doors, people started making eye contact with me - smiling at me - nodding at me. I even got a few winks! As I made my way through the aisles, I could not believe how much attention I was getting. In my experience, Walmart shoppers and staff do not rank high in the super-friendly department (except for the Walmart Greeter). I honestly wondered if people were mistaking me for somebody famous. I cashed out. Walked to my car. And sat in the driver’s seat in wonder. I looked in the mirror to see if I had kale in my teeth or a hummingbird in my hair - but nothing. Except, I WAS wearing this hot-pink, big-bead necklace I had recently picked up at the Salvation Army for 99 cents. Something I had never worn before. Hmmm I wondered. Could it be the necklace??
Having a background in science, I immediately decided to conduct a mini-experiment.
So I took the necklace off, and walked right back into the store. Except this time, nobody looked at me. Nobody made eye contact. Nobody stared. I was invisible. I walked around and around, and nothing. I left the store in total amazement.
I exuded something powerful in that hot pink 99-cent necklace. People noticed me. But why?
The necklace fit my features, suited my coloring, and was a perfect reflection of my character and personality (what I refer to as Inside-Out Congruency). And, it was thrifted, so I could wear it in good conscious, knowing it was representative of my values. But what else...
Magic. That's all I can think of. Pure INSIDE-OUT magic.
When I got back in the car, I put on my 99-cent POWER BEADS, and drove home reveling in my new magic, and it totally changed my life.
I know I know. I sound like a total cheeseball. But listen…
I discovered that I had a Power Accessory!! And that’s a BIG DEAL.
So now when I shop, I ALWAYS look for Power Beads. Not any necklace will do. If it doesn't make me feel mighty when I first put it on, then it's just a plain ole ordinary necklace.
When I need to buck up. Feel good. Be confident. Get people’s attention. I put on my Power Beads. When I’m feeling washed out. Defeated. Worn down. Exhausted. I put on my Power Beads. When I just want to feel good (like… everyday). I put on my Power Beads.
First Date. Job Interview. Childbirth. Meeting with the commissioner. Parenting (!!!). Anniversary. Doctor’s appointment. 10 loads of laundry. DMV. Wearing a bikini. Cooking breakfast with two kids yanking at your shirt tail, in 90 degree heat, while your eggs are burning, and they are late for school.
Basically. Life. There are always at least 15 times a day when I need to tap into my superpowers. That’s why I wear a Power Accessory EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Heck, I even wear my Power Accessories when I’m giving birth and catching frogs!
Do you have a Power Accessory? You may have one, but have never realized it. You might even have one, but are saving it “for best” (if this is true - STOP IT - now is the best time!!).
If you HAVE NOT discovered your Power Accessory yet, here is your homework:
1. Take an accessory inventory - socks, bras, purses, necklaces, earrings, bracelets, rings, hair bows, hats, barrettes, shoes, scarves, bow ties, lipstick, etc. Remember, it doesn't need to be a trendy statement accessory. Go outside the box here! 2. Take a good hard look at all of your accessories, try them on, take note of how you FEEL in them. If something makes you feel like a ROCK STAR, then that's probably your power accessory. And you should be wearing it, or a variation of it, ALL THE TIME.
Don't be suprised if you come up with more than one. Though my Power Beads are my #1 Power Accessory, I would say scarves rank a close second. I also have a great Gorin Bros. hat that I just love, and a leather cuff that makes me feel wicked cool.
Now that I've marveled you with my excellent stylist prowess, tell me all about YOUR best Power Accessory! If you haven't figured it out yet, don't fret. Give it some time, THEN please please please come back and tell me all about it! If you're on Instagram or Facebook, take a picture and TAG ME!
To your Super Power!!
xo Stasia