How To Rock A Bikini In Your 40’s (or any age, for that matter)

This is one of those how-to’s that’s ridiculously simple. Of course not EASY, but simple.

Are ya ready for it? You want to know how to ditch the tankini and rock a bikini in your 40’s?

Well, to borrow the words from Nike: Just do it.

#wearthedamnbikini

It takes good ole fashioned PRACTICE. And that’s it!

Not long ago, the amount of BRAVE it took for me to put on a full coverage tankini would absolutely exhaust me.

It would send me into a pit of self-loathing so deep, so profound, so ugly, it would take me weeks to recover. I'd cancel date nights. I'd snap at my family. I'd cry myself to sleep.

Worse, I was SO angry with myself for being ashamed of my shame. Double shame.

But I kept at it. I kept flexing my brave muscle, over and over again, even though it felt like it was going to kill me. Because in moments of clarity, I KNEW my body was not the problem.

So I just kept practicing. And you know what they say about practice, don't ya? Practice makes progress.

The more I practiced, the better I'd feel in my body. My body wasn't changing. MY MIND WAS.

Now here I am... mid-40’s, and I'm a full-blown, string-bikini mama.

Me. The gal who could hardly stand the site of herself in a tankini just a few short years ago.

Shame is a bitch, you guys. It defies logic, and makes you think that your shame thoughts are logical. That you SHOULD feel ashamed. That your body IS a problem.

We’ve been TRAINED to feel ashamed of our bodies by a multi-bazillion dollar industry that is walking it's money-filled-pockets all the way to the bank. This industry has tricked us into thinking that 1) our bodies shouldn't change and 2) that the sole purpose of our bodies is to be smooth, thin and youthful.

Oh, it makes me so angry I could spit nails. But here's the good news. If you’ve been trained to hate your body, then you can RETRAIN your brain right outta that soul-sucking, self-hating, good-for-nothing body shame.

How do you do that? You flex your brave muscle a little bit every single day. Put on that bold lipstick that scares you. Or that dress that you secretly love, but haven't dared to wear in public because it's a scooch short. Put on that tank top you've had hanging in your closet, even though the thought of baring your arms makes you a little nervous.

Bravery is cumulative, so you might as well start now. Flex those brave muscles a little every day.

Literally putting on your brave, every day, will change your damn life!

Let’s go!

xo Stasia