My Clothes Are NOT The Problem

When I opened my sweater drawer yesterday, it felt like I was looking at someone else’s wardrobe.

None of my clothes looked like ME.

My first reaction was UGH-HOW-FRUSTRATING, because for a second there I thought it meant I needed all new stuff.

But then I realized my closet was reflecting back to me all of the yummy internal shifts and changes that I’ve experienced this year. (Like turning 50!)

And then I remembered that my clothes were not the problem here. My predictions were!

📣📣📣

Our brains are wired to predict what we’re going to wear, based on what we’ve always worn. (Predictive coding - it’s neuroscience people!)

In other words, my brain generated a mental shortcut (aka prediction)––based on past habits and experiences––to help me navigate my mornings more efficiently.

🧠 Good job, brain!!

That means all I gotta do is give my brain some new data to process.

I tried on one of my favorite sweaters with all kinds of different pants, shoes, scarves, and jewelry—and landed on a new HELL YES combo in under 10 minutes.

Shazam! ⚡️

You might be thinking, “Stasia, I don’t have time for this shit!”

But I wanna challenge that.

I think what you don’t have time for is feeling frustrated and annoyed every damn time you get dressed in the morning. That takes a wayyyyy bigger toll on your time and energy (and general well being) then 10 creative minutes spent creating new outfits and connecting to SOUL FIRE. 🔥

When your closet doesn’t feel like YOU, the solution isn’t to ignore it. It’s learning how to reimagine the stuff you already own in new ways.

That takes skill.

You gotta have the courage to wanna be known. You gotta love your body. (So you don’t blame it when things don’t fit.) You gotta trust your yeses, and your nos. And you gotta be okay with failing forward.

These aren’t just closet skills, by the way. They are LIFE skills.

And lucky for you, I teach all of them in Style School. 😉 Registration for the Fall 2024 session is OPEN. Course begins October 28th!

After 7 weeks, you’ll be looking at your wardrobe saying, “YESSSS!!! THIS is all so me!” 🥰