My Clothes Are NOT The Problem
When your closet doesn’t feel like YOU, the solution isn’t to ignore it. It’s learning how to reimagine the stuff you already own in new ways.
It’s time to TAKE OUR ATTENTION BACK
How many times a day do you pick up your phone? How many of those phone pick-ups were necessary (ie. I need to make a phone call), versus how many were driven by impending boredom and a guaranteed dopamine hit (ie. I want to check Instagram). If these companies can KEEP ME HOOKED, they can sell my attention to advertisers. It’s time to TAKE OUR ATTENTION BACK, sisters.
Nobody Owes Me Clean Streets
I took a thing that was driving me bananas EVERY SINGLE DAY, and I turned it into something that makes me feel lucky as hell AND earns me cold hard cash.
When I was stuck in blame, I felt helpless.
When I turned it around and made it my problem, I found a solution.
Celebrating Brand New Parts of You
In other words, I am consciously and intentionally updating my brain's memory archives. In real time! By breaking this one memory down into a dozen (or more!) mini-memories, and then attaching each of those mini-memories to a feeling, I've stacked the swimming-in-ice-cold-water-IS-PLEASURABLE memories in my favor!
The Most WILD Experience of My Life
It’s hard and scary to meet a BRAND-NEW part of you. My brain shifted away from thinking something was happening TO ME, to wondering if something was happening FOR ME.
YOU Are The Golden Thread
And do you know what I realized... PERSONAL STYLE isn't categorical. It doesn't live inside any one box (preppy, classy, outdoorsy, hippy, etc.). PERSONAL STYLE is a reflection of who I am on the inside. And who I am on the inside is complex, dynamic, ever-changing, and sometimes even contradictory!
AND THAT'S TOTALLY NORMAL!
If I don't want my clothes to feel like a costume, then I have PAY ATTENTION to how I feel, and how I want to feel.
It's an INSIDE JOB! And I AM THE GOLDEN THREAD!!
How to Stop Objectifying Yourself, and start Experiencing Yourself
Once you learn how to FIND SAFETY INSIDE YOUR OWN BODY, and stop looking for approval outside yourself, then WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE matters far less than WHAT YOU FEEL LIKE. And ironically, the confidence that comes when you LOVE HOW YOU FEEL is just about the MOST BEAUTIFUL THING a woman can ever wear.
My harrowing escape from a fake competition
When I was out on my Sunday hike yesterday, I had this FUNNY THING happen to me, and I thought to myself... I gotta tell my people this story, because they are sooooo gonna get it!
So here goes.
I'm in the White Mountains of New Hampshire right now, WITHOUT MY FAMILY, settling in for a week of writing (book proposal, ya'll!), and couldn't wait to get out on a solo Sunday hike to kick off my week alone.
I had visions of RUNNING up Mount Willard. Like a gazelle. Or a mountain goat. Or maybe a spring chicken.
Hiking with Kids in Southern Vermont
I've been hiking with my kids since they were knee high to a grasshopper, but it wasn't until a few years ago that we started hiking together as a family EVERY SINGLE SUNDAY, year round, no matter the weather.
We've hiked ALL THE HIKES in and around Southern Vermont many times, and I figured it was high-time I pull together a list of my top faves, from east to west, and share them with YOU.