I refuse to hide my body.
Question for ya.
How many of you are getting younger?
Show of hands.
Wait? How many? Exactly ZERO of you?
That's right. ZERO of you are getting younger.
Interesting, isn't it, to think that NONE OF US are getting any younger, yet we live in a culture/society that teaches us that we gotta work harder to "get back" to our yesterday-body. The one we had BEFORE. When we were younger.
Before you had a baby. Before you had surgery. Before you were diagnosed with a chronic illness. Before you had cancer. Before you hit menopause. Before you got divorced. Before the pandemic. Before grief struck. Before you gained 15 pounds for no "good reason" other than... you-have-a-body-and-it-changed.
Here's the thing. There is ALWAYS going to be a before.
When I was 25, I hated my body, and I wished for my 20 year old body.
When I was 30, I hated my body, and I wished for my 25 year old body.
When I was 35, I hated my body, and I wished for my 30 year old body.
When I was 40, I hated my body, and I wished for my 35 year old body.
TRICKS ON ME, folks.
I was in a perpetual state of yearning for my yesterday-body, never EVER happy with my today-body.
It never occurred to me that I was indoctrinated into a system of structural, social and societal bigotry that shames, dismisses and demoralizes fat bodies and aging bodies as being UN-ATTRACTIVE, UN-WORTHY, and UN-LOVABLE.
Nor did I consider that entire industries are counting on me hating myself so they can continue to make HUNDREDS OF BILLIONS OF DOLLAR off of my self-loathing.
I spent most of my adult life at war with my body. Afraid of my body. Ashamed of my body.
And here's the thing. I'm a white, straight, cis-gendered, able-bodied, thin woman living in America.
In other words, I'm fucking privileged. And I STILL hated my body. I STILL feared what it might become.
Gals, YOUR BODY IS NOT THE PROBLEM.
Ageism. Racism. Sexism. Able-ism. Capitalism. Fat-phobia.
THAT is the problem.
I absolutely REFUSE to HIDE MY BODY. I REFUSE to slink away in shame. I REFUSE to participate in a system that was designed to hijack my worthiness.
Maybe you've been "lucky enough" to work hard and attain some kind of aesthetic today-body-satisfaction, but guess what? That doesn’t get you off the hook. Your body is going to go ahead and change. Because that's what bodies do. And eventually there will come a time when there won't be a diet or system or a cream or a procedure or a device that can "cure" your aging/changing body.
And you're going to be STUCK in your today-body. With ZERO skills of self-acceptance.
OR, maybe you're not one of the "lucky ones" that can change your body into something you deem desirable, and you feel frustrated about that, so you're hiding your body. Waiting for your body to listen - obey - do as it’s told.
You've pushed pause on life.
You're waiting until you "lose that covid-15" to buy new pants.
You're giving yourself one-more-year to lose that weight before buying yourself some clothes that make your SOUL FIRE sing.
Here's what I think.
THE GIG IS UP.
Your today-body is a GOOD BODY, and it's time you start treating it as such.
How do you do that?
You say THANK YOU BODY, for being such a good body.
You say THANK YOU LEGS, for being such good legs.
You say THANK YOU ARMS, for being such good arms.
When you show gratitude to your today-body for being a GOOD BODY that does GOOD BODY THINGS, then you are celebrating it for doing it's JOB. It's actual real and true job of supporting you as you LIVE YOUR ONE GLORIOUS LIFE!
When you show your body that kind of gratitude, your relationship with your body WILL CHANGE.
When I was 41, I hated my body.
Now, I'm 45, and I feel Good as Hell in my today-body. And I’m done HIDING IT.
My body didn't change.
My relationship with my body changed.
Because I CHANGED how I interacted with my body.
It's not easy, changing how you interact with your body.
It's taken me years to RENAME, REFRAME, UNSHAME the conversations I have with and about my body, but I'll tell you what, it's one of the best things I've EVER done for myself.
When I stopped hating myself, do you know what I found? MY VOICE.
I have used my VOICE to cheer me, and THOUSANDS OF OTHER WOMEN on, because loving yourself is NOT EASY.
It takes guts and commitment and tenacity and resilience to stand up to a system that’s intent on seeing you fail.
Do you know what else it takes… COMMUNITY.
We're up against a lot, me and you. And there is NOTHING LIKE BEING PART OF A SISTERHOOD of women who believe in you, who are committed to breaking through the noise of “too-much-ness” and “not-enough-ness” with you, and who SEE YOU in all of your worthiness, just as you are, in your one and only today-body.
Registration for the next session of Style School opens on Friday, August 28th, at noon EST.
If you're an alum, and you know someone who is itching for some revel-YOU-tionary SELF LOVE and sisterhood, then please forward this email to them. If that person itching to join the SSS sisterhood is you, then mark your calendars for Friday, August 28th, because I'll tell you what... the world is changing, and it needs YOUR VOICE, YOUR BRAVERY, YOUR FIRE more than anything right now.
CURIOUS ABOUT THIS THING CALLED "STYLE SCHOOL"?
You're in luck, because I've gone ahead and taken TWO MEGA FOUNDATIONAL CHUNKS of the SSS curriculum, and turned them into a FREE CLASS. And I'm gonna teach it LIVE, on Thursday, August 27th at noon EST, so you can see FIRST HAND what a day-in-the-life of Style School is ALL ABOUT.
Here's what I'll be covering in the PERSONAL STYLE FROM THE INSIDE OUT free webinar:
What is Inside-Out Congruency
Why I redefined BEAUTY
How to decode your body’s shape
How to unlock the magic of balance and proportion
Even if you don't want to do Style School, OR if you've already done Style School and just want a REFRESHER, you'll want to join this webinar because HOLY BUCKETS I'm giving out - FOR FREE - some seriously good Style School content. Content that will challenge the way you think about style, teach you some things you've probably never learned before (hello balance and proportion), and inspire you to TRY A NEW WAY OF BEING IN YOUR TODAY-BODY.
If you can't make it live, no big deal, because I'll be sending out the recording RIGHT AFTER THE CALL. All you gotta do is SIGN UP HERE to gain access to the webinar and the recording.
If you've got ANY questions at all, find me on Instagram @StasiaSavasuk or send me an email and let me know.
I'm ready and ROARING to go!
xo Stasia